This is a bit of a confession, hear me out will ya.
I am not fond of socializing. Really. An ISTJ person loves to stay on his nook with a book (forgive the pun there ^^), and now with his laptop tied on his wrist so that it can accompany him wherever he goes. Thank God for wi-fi, now I can virtually surf the internet anywhere.
Social networking over the net is not that easy for me. In person, as I have said, I am an ISTJ, I socialize rarely. I hate parties and big gatherings. I feel that I would drown if I stay longer in a crowd. I’d like this to change.
What forced me to get out of my shell was my job –an HR Practitioner. Oh men! That is people management dude –so I am compelled (by virtue of my responsibility) to interact with people. Imagine how difficult for me to interview job applicants, it drains me of emotional stamina. Though over time I got over it. I managed. In fact, I did well. Besides, I am a behaviorist student. Ironically though, I have not given attention to my own personality profile. And still, I haven’t improved my social skills. Except, I guess, meeting a prospective girlfriend. (*grins)
Albeit, Online Social Networking has opened a new window of opportunity for me to interact and make friends online, hopefully, improve my social skills. I am still struggling, but I am doing fine (I suppose ^^). Forgive me, if many times I visited your blog/s, yet I leave no comment, but I do love to read your entries. I am still trying to get out of this rut. I am changing that now. I will comment regardless. I am starting today –given the time.
Will you help me? Or at least, give me some tips on how to improve my ‘Online Social Skills’?
Thanks. ^_^
I am not fond of socializing. Really. An ISTJ person loves to stay on his nook with a book (forgive the pun there ^^), and now with his laptop tied on his wrist so that it can accompany him wherever he goes. Thank God for wi-fi, now I can virtually surf the internet anywhere.
Social networking over the net is not that easy for me. In person, as I have said, I am an ISTJ, I socialize rarely. I hate parties and big gatherings. I feel that I would drown if I stay longer in a crowd. I’d like this to change.
What forced me to get out of my shell was my job –an HR Practitioner. Oh men! That is people management dude –so I am compelled (by virtue of my responsibility) to interact with people. Imagine how difficult for me to interview job applicants, it drains me of emotional stamina. Though over time I got over it. I managed. In fact, I did well. Besides, I am a behaviorist student. Ironically though, I have not given attention to my own personality profile. And still, I haven’t improved my social skills. Except, I guess, meeting a prospective girlfriend. (*grins)
Albeit, Online Social Networking has opened a new window of opportunity for me to interact and make friends online, hopefully, improve my social skills. I am still struggling, but I am doing fine (I suppose ^^). Forgive me, if many times I visited your blog/s, yet I leave no comment, but I do love to read your entries. I am still trying to get out of this rut. I am changing that now. I will comment regardless. I am starting today –given the time.
Will you help me? Or at least, give me some tips on how to improve my ‘Online Social Skills’?
Thanks. ^_^
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Actually I landed in Europe via Chicago by a chance landing in a European chat site. Now some ten years later of happy togetherness, looking back it is like a dream. I decided to concentrate on one person and give 100%. This is before all this new technology. Before we just had an internet connection and a telephone. What is your problem guy?
Hey there!
Thanks for stopping by on my blog.
Hey, you dropped me a comment, you're social ;)
By being more social online, are you suggesting for social marketing purposes or in general?
SM and having a network of blog supporters is hard work but you just found one in me :)
@ euro
fear or rejection, i guess. isn't that typical?
@ mariam
^^, i guess , i did. thanks.
am suggesting in general.
actually, I started today -with you. I am waiting how people will respond if I comment proactively to their posts instead of waiting for someone to comment on my blog.
Funny you should mention that.
It always takes someone to make the first move and then everyone else will follow. That's just human nature even online, eh?
But for blogs specifically, I find that I get more traction from the smaller blog authors. It's like a closer community where you all help each other to succeed.
Kind of like growing up together in high school.
i think you are right. you just gave me an splendid idea there.
ey, google tinkered on the comment feature of blogspot hence I cannot follow where (your blog) you are coming from. Kindly leave your blog's URL.
thanks again mariam.
cheers!
Well, you sent me a message, so i think that qualifies as being social, just start chatting with other bloggers and you will start to build great relationships!
http://mommygetspaid.blogspot.com/
Hmm. Not sure what's going on with Blogger.
But I'm from www.moneyrelations.com :)
Ponder this: you are JUST FINE being introverted! I recently finish "The Introvert Advantage" and I learned a lot.
We are so blessed to have many ways to communicate these days. We can work with people, over the internet, yet remain our wonderful, introverted selves!
Consider reading the book (forgot the author, stop by and i'll look it up for you! :) and embracing your ISTJ nature. That actually sounds pretty familiar. I know I scored 'pretty darn introverted' in the quiz from the IA book.
You are very brave going into HR and maybe a little stronger for it. There ARE ways however.
You are in VERY good company - Bill Gates is an introvert and he's doing just fine.
Be Well,
Pam Hoffman
http://seminarlist.blogspot.com
p.s. drop your card at EntreCard when you visit!
just be yourself..and don't trying to be that you are not..huhu
@ mommy
yeah. I am trying. ^^,
thanks for trailing me here. ^^,
@ mariam
got thet.
@ pam
yeah, am quite tough as an HR Manager but I've learned to mellow through the years. Hiring and firing people is not easy, let alone counseling employees with performance or any other problems.
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Thank you all for the comments here.
Cheers!
I think you a doing a fine job at social networking. You have over 30 members in your MyBlogLog community, you get several comments on your site, and you visit other bloggers sites.
You are a upstanding member of the social networking community.
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